I wonder how he would feel if you approached him for help with his mentoring skills since he has such a great a background. I'm wondering if some of what he is expressing is in part frustration at the hospital system- not specifically You? If he feels that REAL nursing isn't being practiced there, how can you improve your nursing to achieve the standard he is wanting. Also, specifically, what standards ARE lacking, and what opportunities are there to move to a better patient outcome?
Also, arm yourself with continuing education programs, maybe discuss some of these with him. Take just one interesting patient situation and try to get his input on how the patient's course is being handled, what you can do to improve nursing for the patient that you can do.
Great point rnrounds7 - mentorship is a big deal. We have to stick together if we want to do good for our patients. Unfortunately in healthcare, where team work and collegiality would help significantly, we don't get as much training and people who are as vigilant about these skills.
You make a good point.
So maybe this other nurse is actually the one that is really miserable and is just projecting toward you. Can you step back and take yourself out of the situation just a moment and answer your own question? You mentioned you are questioning whether you even want to continue nursing. Step back and answer that one not thinking about the stress involved with this other individual.
And as you can really become secure in who you are, then can you get to the place that other people's opinion of you doesn't sway who you know you are?
Joyce Harrell, RN, OCN